Q: If you hear someone is planning to stay at a particular hotel, and you’ve had a horrible experience there, should you tell her? My friend posted on Facebook that she and her family had booked a trip to a resort in the Caribbean that my family and I stayed at last year. We got food poisoning from seafood we ate there, some jewelry was stolen from my suitcase and there were big cleanliness issues. Part of me wants to warn her, but part of me thinks I’ll just ruin her vacation if I do. I have no idea if she could possibly change her mind at this point without losing her money. But if she goes and has a horrible time, and I don’t warn her, I’ll feel terrible. A: This is tricky. Personally, I’d want to hear all the gory details, even if my vacation wasn’t refundable. I would then email the manager of the resort and ask what they’ve done to address the issues you encountered. I’d know to put my jewelry in the safe and skip the ceviche. But that’s just me. I’m sure there are people who’d rather not know.