Author Anna Louie Sussman is both civil and thoughtful in her response to an earlier op-ed I wrote on feminism and fertility, but I am afraid, after this longer discussion, it appears there is less common ground between us than I originally thought.

What first caught my eye in a recent op-ed Sussman wrote for the New York Times was her admission that Americans want more children than they are actually having, and that “fewer women are marrying, at least in part because they’re having trouble finding appealing men.”