There is a genre of online video and social media post that is revealing of our time. In one such video, an online fitness influencer posts herself crying in her car outside the gym. The words accompanying the tears: “Just saw a teenage boy (who’s just been taught how to bench for the first time) start repping a weight that took me 2 years to hit as a PR.”

In a similar message board post, a female caddy realizes that the male caddy her age is so much stronger than her.