In a rare instance of cracking down on Muslim rapists, the United Kingdom is seeking the extradition of influencer Andrew Tate from the United States. After much time allowing the alleged rapist and human trafficker to hide out on American soil, the U.S. has finally arrested him and moved forward with extradition. Tate’s saga, and the ideas and trends that made him famous, reveal the sorry state of guy-girl relations today.
Sitting at over 10 million followers on X, Tate is a manosphere kingpin, influencing a subculture of men whose opposition to feminism often spills over into misogyny. Tate’s particular contribution to the community is teaching men how to make more money, many of those ways questionable. He’s a self-help guru in a long line of hucksters for sad sacks.
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Unsurprisingly, he isn’t a big fan of marriage. “How big of an idiot is a guy who gets married?” he asks. “The forcing of a monogamous society mitigates the true distribution curves of mating pairs,” he says.
There is an incredible irony here. By being disinterested in family life and focusing on making money, Tate and his fellow “G’s,” or gangsters, sound a lot like the feminists they despise. Specifically, the second-wave feminists of the 1960s and 1970s.
Betty Friedan’s book The Feminine Mystique launched second-wave feminism in 1963. Friedan claims the role of housewife puts women in a “comfortable concentration camp” and encourages women to instead pursue careers.
Here, we have a movement popular with men that devalues family life and emphasizes work (or the “grindset” as they like to call it), and a movement popular with women that devalues family life (the “comfortable concentration camp”) and emphasizes work. The parallel is uncanny.
If second-wave feminism could be summed up with the mantra “I don’t need no man!” then the manosphere could easily adopt “I don’t need no woman!” Maybe they should be called masculinists?
The original feminists would be aghast to see the mutual loathing men and women now have for each other. In the 1830s, Sarah Grimke hoped that affirming equality would bring men and women closer together as companions in life. This “[applies] not only to the parties entering into the marriage contract, but to all men and women,” Grimke wrote, “because I believe God designed woman to be a help meet for man in every good and perfect work.”
Modern society has spat upon that endeavor. What could unite men and women has been made into something that divides.
Now, men fault women for wanting “a warrior monk with a wallet” (previously known as a mature lover who can protect and provide). C.S. Lewis would prefer to analogize to a medieval knight. Meanwhile, women seem averse to the idea that a man would expect anything from them in return. Others talk up the idea of marriage but rarely interact with the opposite sex (if you know, you know). Both sexes have become suspicious of each other thanks to movements like purity culture and #MeToo. The sad sacks aren’t beyond understanding.
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Male-female relations are in desperate need of a reset. Until that happens, things will likely just continue to deteriorate. Tate’s rise in the context of this situation has made the moral bankruptcy it created clear. The manosphere idolizes a pimp who himself treats wealth like it’s the highest good.
Men and women can still be each other’s companions, but they mutually need to learn charity and humility towards one another. That involves unlearning the last several decades of developments between the two sexes. It’s a tall order, but necessary for restoring natural, healthy human relations.