“Choose forgiveness, not vengeance,” urged the priest presiding over a funeral Mass Saturday for University of Virginia lacrosse player Yeardley Love.

“We cannot be wrong for feeling any feeling today,” the Rev. Joseph Breighner told Love’s family and friends at the service in Baltimore. “At some point we will have to forgive someone [for Yeardley’s death]. Today may not be that day, it may not be for many days, but we will have to forgive because it is the only way to heal.”