It’s bad enough when Hollywood glorifies divorce, but it’s even worse when it’s promoted by everyday wives as liberation for women. A recent article in Glamour shines the light not on one woman’s story, but on an ethos among the modern generation. Simply put, many millennials have been raised to believe that the institution of marriage is oppressive to women and that when things go wrong, it’s the fault of men. Never are women themselves expected to look inward to see where they may be going wrong — never.

In the article, headlined “It Took Divorce to Make My Marriage Equal,” author Lyz Lenz writes that she divorced her husband due to the uneven distribution of childcare between the two of them. (Side note: If this is considered an acceptable reason for divorce, falling under the nebulous heading “irreconcilable differences,” we as a nation are doomed.) Lenz is a writer and was at one point dealing with two book deals at once, along with the incredibly demanding task of caring for two toddlers. As a result, her life imploded.