It’s a common expression of derision: “A lot of girls show up just looking for their M.R.S. degree.” This line, which you hear mostly from college students and recent alumni, is a very particular form of the “I’m not like other girls” trope.

The line is not only snooty, it’s also misguided. One of the best things about college is the lifelong friends you can make, and that might include your future spouse. In fact, I’ve argued, this is a good thing to keep in mind while choosing a college.